Some guys believe that becoming 'gay' is just a shirt colour away.
Is that true?
Sometimes I wonder.
Especially IF you listen to what SOME guys SAY
Many guys believe - so it seems - that all you have to DO to become gay is wear a certain colour. Or 'act' a certain 'way'. Or 'like' a certain 'thing'. [A particular song or movie or book or TV show or whatever] And with some guys - it's not so much what you LIKE - but what you DO NOT HATE - that makes you gay. So you better say that you HATE anything that might be considered beautiful [for example] because only gay guys and girls like beauty. [of course] And most of all - you BETTER HATE gay people - because IF you don't - then your insecure half-witted friends will start to 'wonder about you'.
If you're gay [So some believe] you can basically do whatever you want. But if you're straight [At least insofar as SOME guys are concerned] then you better follow a VERY narrowly defined set of imagined 'rules'. 'Rules' that are so sufficating that I don't know how anyone ever manages to live up to them. [And most guys don't]
So just how easy is it to become gay?
I remember when I was a kid in a movie theatre. I'd often see two male friends walk into an almost empty theatre and sit 10 or more seats apart and sometimes 10 or more ROWS apart. I guess it would mean they're 'gay' IF they sat next to each other. Is that it? So all you have to do to become gay is sit next to your friend in a movie theatre? I had no idea.
What about same-sex intimacy? I've known lots of guys who would NEVER DARE hug their same sex best friend - a guy they've known for YEARS. But will glady hug a GIRL they just met. So if a guy hugs a guy - I guess THAT will make him 'gay'.
AMAZING - ISN'T IT?!
All my life I've been surrounded by unbelievably insecure boys and men who spend practically every moment of every hour of every day going out of their way to convince the world around them [convince themselves - more like it] that THEY are NOT GAY. How pathetic. And chances are - of course - that most of those guys are NOT gay. But because they are SO afraid of themselves - they never grow up. They never become men. They are so aware of every move they make - every 'thing' they say - every 'thing' they do - that they usually end up being SO emotionally tied up AND so focused on themselves - that they amount to one big blob of NOTHING. And sadly - many of these 'men' have kids [Because of course - as everyone knows - real straight men have kids!!] and end up passing on TO THEIR SONS this SAME insecurity - and on it goes. What a wonderful 'gift' a father can give to his son - the 'gift' of insecurity.
One such father gave his son some 'great' advice. He told his son NEVER to masturbate - because masturbation was "fagging yourself". Isn't that lovely?!
Grrrrr.............
A MAN- regardless of his sexual orientation - does NOT allow himself to be guilt tripped into sacrificing HIMSELF in order to comply to some OTHER GUYS idea of what is 'acceptable behavior'. [Or some GIRLS idea - for that matter] Have you ever watched 'Queer Eye for the Straight Guy'? It's an interesting show. Not because of the so-called 'queer guys' [a 'term' I don't like - by the way] but because of the reactions of some of the straight guys. Right away - you can tell what straight guy is comfortable with himself. HE has NO problem - whatsoever - with being touched by a group of gay guys. WHY? Because that straight guy KNOWS he's STRAIGHT. And no matter how much he is touched by guys - even gay guys - HIS sexual orientation isn't threatened. Makes you think - doesn't it? I mean - if you KNOW you're straight - then what COULD someone else DO to change that? NOTHING.
A MAN - regardless of his sexual orientation - is compassionate, caring and kind. He is strong but always fair. He is honourable and honest. And he does NOT allow OTHER PEOPLE to shame him into behaving in a way that makes THEM more comfortable. He is TRUE to HIMSELF. He IS himself.
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